are we renting our marriage or are we owning it?!

 Over the weekend I was reminded how beautiful a marriage can be and at the same time how hard it can be as well.
Are we renting our marriage or owning it?
Marriage is like owning a property or for some it’s like renting.
When we rent a property we don’t take that great care of it as if it were our own. When we rent and if something is terribly wrong with the property, what do we do? We would probably leave it and go find another. BUT, when we own our property and something goes terribly wrong, we don’t leave it and go looking for another, we stay and we do whatever it takes to fix those problems. Marriage is so similar. We should always own our marriage. We made a vow, a commitment to stay through the good times and the bad. If something goes wrong we work at it till its fixed no matter how long the process of fixing it will take, we stick with it because we own it, we are committed to it. 
 It seem like now a days we are renting our marriages and when something goes wrong we leave it and go rent somewhere else. There will always be problems whether its in this property or the next. No one is perfect. We are all unique in our own way. No two people think the same way, and that’s beautiful! Marriage is a beautiful thing, it teaches us to work together, it teaches us who we really are or who we want to be and not be. Marriage is between two people who love each other no matter how imperfect one or the other is. Marriage is two people committed to helping each other out. It’s not all just about you/me or him, its about both of us as one. 

In the end when the property is all fixed up and finished, we will love it and appriciate it all the more!

Let us change this generation and stop being renters of our marriages, lets own them!! There is power in marriages, lets keep them together!
{this of course doesn’t apply for those who are being abused physically or mentally or any other unhealthy situation}

A Much Needed Date Night!

 
Last weekend Ray and I went on a much needed date night.

Ray planned the whole date. Our first stop was the tanning salon (I know its not the best for your skin, but its so relaxing every now and then), then we headed to get couples massages!!

The massage were awesome! we both felt so relaxed afterwards.
Next to the spa there was Starbucks, so we grabbed us some, of course!

Then we drove off to Bart to head to the City for a late lunch/ early dinner.
Once we arrived at the city we went to The Mexican Restaurant. This was my first time here and Ray’s second. The food was really good, it tasted homemade!

After this yummy meal we did some walking around.
We went into a few stores and then we went back to Bart to head to the coliseum to watch the Worrior game VS Lakers

The game was a lot of fun and to top it off the Worriors won just buy a few points in the last seconds!!
I love date nights with the hubs!!

Birthday Fiesta!

Last Friday, we celebrated Meagan’s birthday!
Her hubs surprised her with a fiesta theme.
It was so much fun being with the people I love!
(pictures via meagan)
 
 
Also, a week and a day ago was my sweet sisters 30th birthday!!
We went to brunch at cheesecake factory, she did some shopping, and then we headed to our favorite place Concannon for some appitizers and a glass of wine. Later that evening we had pizza and cake at the parents.

On another note; madison has been sleeping a little better. Thank you guys for your sweet comments and prayers!! Love you!

What Women Want

 
A few days ago I posted on The Four Major Needs of a Man so, today I will share my notes on what I learned about what women want! my notes on what women want are less then the one for the man, of course 😉
First

Agian (like in the post of Mans needs), 

there are 3 major problems in marriage

1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God
2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting her
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying her needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.
3. Selfishness
– Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting her needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.
What Women Want
1. Security
~Be concerned, come to her world -what doesn’t bother a man bothers a women
~She needs your strength and understanding
~Be there to help
~Husbands love your wives as God loved the church
~Be a faithful provider
~Study her- want her heart
2. Soft non-sexual affection = the more sexual women become
~Romance- meeting an unspoken need
~You value her
~You care
~Emotional connection = Security
~Hold her hand, wrap your arms around her
3. Open & Honest Communication
~Detail      
~Emotional information  (It is not that she is nosey, its that she cares)
~Communicate is not just words its also feelings & emotions
~Talk with her whether you feel like it or not
~Listen/Care
~Be verbal
~Communication is oxygen to her
~Opening up = healing and re-wiring
women can fix men (their emotions or what is holding them back) if they let them
4. Leadership
(Doesn’t mean dominance)
~Women want their husbands to help…
*discipline their children
*Romance – intimate
*Finances- Budget together
*Spiritual- Pray, go to church
The definition of a HUSBAND  = a grower
husbands you can nurish (protect), feed,  mature your wife – physically, emotionally and spiritually.

well men, there you have it. now, go and put these 4 needs into practice!!

What’s Your Love Story

I am linking up with From Mrs.to Mama today!!

1. How long have you and your significant other been together?Ray and I have been together for 9 lovely years!

2. How did you meet? {What’s your “love” story?}

We met at the Chiropractic office I used to work at. Ray would come in and get adjusted by the doctor, and after a few times of him coming in, he asked me on a date and from then on it was history!

3. If married, how long have you been married?  Ray and I have been married for 5 years!


4. If you are married, where did you get married at? Big or small wedding?  We got married at a golf course in Sunol. We had about 120 people at our wedding.


5. Do you have any nick-names that you call one another? Do share!
Ray calls me Boo. I call him, love bug, my love, babe, honey. 😉 

6. Name 3 things you love most about your honey.

1. His heart! I love his love for people. 2. His determination. 3.Because he is Ray and there is no other like him!


 
7. Tell us how he proposed? Or your ideal proposal?
Ray proposed while we were on a cruise! 

 After a nice dinner on the cruise we headed back to our room and we went out to our balcony, he actually went back in to grab the ring { I, of course did not know, I thought he was grabbing us a drink} while I stayed looking out at the beautiful scenery, Ray comes back out and gets on his knee and asks me to marry him {he says other things before he actually asks me to marry him, but I am just trying to keep it nice and simple}!



8. Is he a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy for v-day, or strawberries, champagne, and rose petals? Ray is a v-day card type of guy! Which I love, because i love when he expresses his feelings towards me. 🙂


9. Are you a sunset dinner on the beach kind of girl, or pop a movie in and relax on the couch? Are you kidding?! Of course… well… for me… I’d rather be on the beach!!


10. Tell us one thing you’d like to do with your significant one day. If you could do anything? Go anywhere?
we would spend a whole month in panama mx, just the two of us! I would also love for us to go back to Africa.

11. Tell us what you plan on doing on this Valentine’s Day.

something simple, maybe dinner and a movie.

12. Are you asking for anything this Valentine’s day?
nope, not asking for anything… just QT with him.

13. Give us one piece of advice of keeping a relationship strong and full of love.
Do it all with LOVE. Forgive. Respect. Focus on making him happy and he will end up doing the same for you. AND go on lots and lots of dates together!!


14. Show us a picture of what love means to you.

 

Our 5 Year Anniversary Getaway!

  Early Saturday morning, we dropped the girls off at my parents house, and we headed to our favorite breakfast spot!
Meagan, one of my BFF’s, dropped this off at my parents house for Ray and I!!
Thanks, lady!!
 On our way to breakfast!

After a great breakfast, we headed to the city where we stayed for the weekend!

We checked in at the Hyatt, went to our room and enjoyed a little champagne with chocolate covered strawberries, and then we headed out to do some shopping!!!  
This was OUR anniversary, but it felt more like MY birthday, Ray was spoiling me! He was buying me new clothes, shoes, sun glasses,  and a necklace!! So sweet! Thanks, love!!

After my shopping spree, we headed back to our room to get ready for dinner at Bobo’s Steak House!

‘Our meal was ah-mazingly delicious!! It’s so nice to eat our food while it’s still nice and warm-haha! I love the conversations the hubs and I were able to have without the little ones interrupting ;), but we still, for sure, missed them 😉
After an amazing dinner, we headed to a comedy show… this was mine and Ray’s first!

no pictures were allowed, so I snapped a couple with my cell before the show started 😉
After the comedy show we headed back to the Hyatt, went to their restaurant to order ourselves some dessert!! The view from the restaurant is beautiful!

after dessert the rest was history! 😉
The next morning we had a late check out, so we slept in, had some breakfast, did some napping, and then got ready and headed to a 3 o’clock listing appointment. Yes, you heard that right… a listing appointment! My hubby is a work-aholic! lol! He just had to go on ahead and book an appointment on our anniversary weekend, didn’t he?! o0o0h, babe! It’s OK though, you have to work hard in order to succeed, AND he bought me a Venti White Chocolate Mocha and brought his ipad along so I wouldn’t be bored while I waited in the car, so it was all good!! hehe!

 
Once his listing appointment was over, we headed to lunch at Los Pericos and ordered some big yummy burritos!! After, we picked up our girls!!!!! <3333 Its so nice to have a getaway and reconnect and just have QT to ourselves, but there is nothing like seeing/ being with our precious girls from a weekend without them. <33


Goodbye 2011, You Were Extraordinary!!

Thank you, Father God, for your many blessing I have received in 2011!! Thank you for blessing me and my family each and every day!!

God bless you all, my lovely readers!! May 2012 be filled with tons of blessings, joy, and LOVE!!! I love you guys!! Thanks so much for being apart of my life! You guys are the BEST!!!
 

Hubby Thursdays ~ He Loves Me!

 
I love this man!

I love that he loves me for me.

He knows me and loves me just the way I am.

He loves me when I am at my worst and when I am at my best.

He loves when I look my best and when I’ve just gotten out of bed.

He loves me when I am all dressed up and when I am in my sweats and a t-shirt.

He loves me when dinner is made, the house is cleaned, and the girls are in bed.

He loves me when the laundry is not finished, the dishes are stacked high, dinner is still yet to be made, and the girls are still running around past their bed time.

He loves Olga!

Thanks for choosing me!!

Hubby Thursdays- Our Beginning

  How Ray and I met…
I worked at a chiropractors office in Dublin and Ray would come in to see the doctor and get adjusted. The first time I met him I thought he was such a hottie, and that was it. After he kept coming in a few more times I became more interested, so I checked his file to see how old he was and if he was married. When I looked at his file and seen he was 26 and not married I thought… I’m too young {I was 18}, he will never look at me in that way {as a girlfriend/future wife.} My next thought was… I should try to get Ray and my sister together! I told my sister about how great of a guy Ray was and that she should come to my work one day about five-ish {this is the time he mostly always comes in} in hopes they would run into each other. Elizabeth came to my work one day around five-ish, she got adjusted by the docotor and waited around to see if Ray would show up. She waited, waited, and waited some more and nothing, no Ray. Elizabeth told me, ” Well Olga, its probably not meant to be.” I told her, “just wait five more minutes and if he doesn’t come then you can head on out.” Five minutes past and no Ray. Elizabeth then left, and about 3 minutes after she left… guess who shows up? Ray! I was bummed they missed eachother, but something inside of me was very happy to see him and not share him with my sister. As days gone by, less and less I would talk to my sister about getting them two together, and the more I would fall for Ray. I loved going to work on the days I knew he would be there. I would wait all day for it to be evening to see him walk in through the door. My heart would beat so fast and I would pretend to be working or looking down at a file as if I didn’t know he was walking in. I loved those few minutes we had to talk and to take him off the traction machine. He made me smile, laugh, he put a spark in me that I have never felt! One day, He asked me, “So, what type of guys do you like?” I loved that he asked me this because it made me think… maybe he likes me or is interested in me a little? after I told him what type of guy I liked I then asked him the same question, and he said, “Well, I like girls who are latin, but that don’t look latina.” I thought.. Ok, thats totally me. I then said, “Oh, Ok.” He then asked for my number!! I was so excited, but of course, I wasnt going to show him how excited I really was. 
We went out a few times, and i was on cloud nine everytime we went out. He would call me and i would call him. There was a time in our dating days that he wouldn’t call for a few days then he would call. I was confused and sad, because i wanted to talk to him everyday. i remember saying to my self… am not calling him or setting a date night with him anymore. if he really wants something serious with me he will make the move. I was at work when i seen him again. My heart pounded so fast that i thought it was going to jump off my chest, and these crazy butterflies in my stomach. We talked, laughed, then he said he would call me later. This made me so happy yet sad, because i had no clue were this was going. After work i got into my car and started crying my eyes out. I was praying to God telling him that if this guy was not going to be my future husband  that he would stop calling me! BUT, that if he was the “one” then that he would keep calling me even if i did not call him. Sure enough, he was calling everyday, texting, saying… I don’t know what is going on with me,  I cannot stop thinking about you.!! praise god!!! Lord Jesus, you are amazing! you listen to me even when i am so not worthy. You always come through and answer all my prayers!! thank you Lord Jesus for being such a loving God! No one can fathom your amazing love, Lord, and i thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! no thank you is ever enough on how thankful I am of you! And since then everything else was history!!!
the office

~ its so awesome to go down memory lane! it brings back all those amazing new love feeling! I challenge you to go down memory lane this evening with your husband and remember those great new love feeling! We get so cought up with work, kids, laundry, clean house, that we should take time to remember those beautiful first dates full of spraks, and butterflies!
God bless!  

Relay For Life!

God placed a sweet friend name Brandi into my life! 
I think its been 9 months since I first met Brandi, and she is amazing!
Brandi was 5 years old when she was diagnosed with cancer. She finished all her treatments at age 7, and 14 years later she was diagnosed again, BUT… now, she is cancer free! She is wife to Jay and a wonderful mommy to a beauitful little girl, bri’elle. This is Brandi’s testimony of the miracle God has performed in her! She gives all the praise and glory to God! Praise God!!

Thank you Lord Jesus for Brandi! Thank you for giving her life and placing her in my life!!!

So, with that being said, we joined her team for American Cancer Society’s Relay For Life of Pinole. 
It was a great event raising awareness for cancer!
Being apart of Relay For Life was such a blessing. It showed God’s amazing power! Nothing is impossible to Him! It was so much fun spending time with all my BFF’s! We all had a great time spending time together, hanging out, walking a few laps, and enjoying some yummy food. The kiddos also enjoyed hanging out with their buddies, playing with all the cool toys they had, running around on the grass, and walking a few laps as well.

It was a great Saturday morning!

Brandi’s Quote
“I’m thankful for every breathe I take and everyday I live. Each day is not promised.”
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 Brandi’s theme was “Happy Birthday” in hopes for more b-days for everyone.

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