What Women Want

 
A few days ago I posted on The Four Major Needs of a Man so, today I will share my notes on what I learned about what women want! my notes on what women want are less then the one for the man, of course 😉
First

Agian (like in the post of Mans needs), 

there are 3 major problems in marriage

1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God
2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting her
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying her needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.
3. Selfishness
– Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting her needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.
What Women Want
1. Security
~Be concerned, come to her world -what doesn’t bother a man bothers a women
~She needs your strength and understanding
~Be there to help
~Husbands love your wives as God loved the church
~Be a faithful provider
~Study her- want her heart
2. Soft non-sexual affection = the more sexual women become
~Romance- meeting an unspoken need
~You value her
~You care
~Emotional connection = Security
~Hold her hand, wrap your arms around her
3. Open & Honest Communication
~Detail      
~Emotional information  (It is not that she is nosey, its that she cares)
~Communicate is not just words its also feelings & emotions
~Talk with her whether you feel like it or not
~Listen/Care
~Be verbal
~Communication is oxygen to her
~Opening up = healing and re-wiring
women can fix men (their emotions or what is holding them back) if they let them
4. Leadership
(Doesn’t mean dominance)
~Women want their husbands to help…
*discipline their children
*Romance – intimate
*Finances- Budget together
*Spiritual- Pray, go to church
The definition of a HUSBAND  = a grower
husbands you can nurish (protect), feed,  mature your wife – physically, emotionally and spiritually.

well men, there you have it. now, go and put these 4 needs into practice!!

The Four Major Needs of a Man

 
 This past Saturday Ray and  I went to a marriage couples get together from our church and it was so much fun! We got to spend time with other couples and learn about husband and wife’s needs! I want to share what I learned about the four major needs of a man! These are my notes I took, and since my blog is where I document everything, I surly want to look back on this from time to time 😉 {Note: this is what I believe, and God forbid, if you are in a abusive marriage, these do not apply}

First
there are 3 major problems in marriage
1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God
2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting him
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying his needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.
3. Selfishness
 – Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting his needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.

The Four Major needs of a man

1. HONOR
– Praise him
-Focus on his strength not his weaknesses
-Honor is like his oxygen
-How would you treat Jesus?
-Honor your husband to where you want him to be and he will rise to that level! Believe.
– Dis-honor him and he will stay down

note: anyone can honor the perfect man.

2. SEX
-Its a force in a man
-Commit to meeting this need
-Be more sexual then you feel
-Men are visual

3. Fun & Friendship
– Is the basis of a good marriage
-Be his friend before being a mother
-Doing things with him that he enjoys makes him feel like you are still interested in him {you still like him}

4. Home Supporter
-Wife/mommy duties
-Stress free home {clean}
-Making your house a home

Have Fun Together!

The best marriage in the world is two servants in love

FindingBeautyintheOrdinary.com
For any men out there who read my blog… I will be posting what women want/need very soon, so stay tuned 😉

Thou Shall Not Steal

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to teach my girls about what stealing is. We were at safeway in-line getting ready to pay for our groceries, once I paid, I had the guy who was baging our bags help us out. As I was getting the girls out of the cart {note: they were in the cart that has a car attached to it, so its hard to see what they are doing in there} I notice Oceana had a blue bottle pop in her hand. She handed it to me saying, “Abre” {abre is “open” in Spanish} I grabbed it and I said, “Oceana, I am sorry but you can not have this. Mommy did not pay for it. Oceana, if you want something you have to ask mommy you cant just take it.” I then handed it to the guy who was helping me. I told him that I did not pay for this item and if he can take it back for me. As I was buckling Oceana up in her car seat she was crying and saying, “Miiiiine, mine, mine.” Poor thing, I felt so bad, because she did look so happy handing me this bottle pop thinking she was going to enjoy a yummy treat, BUT she needed to learn that she can not take things without asking mom and without paying for them. Once all the girls and groceries were loaded into the car and the guy who was helping me had left, I was getting ready to get into my seat when I realized that if Oceana had one then Raychel MUST have one too! I looked back and asked, “Raychel, do you have one too?” She looked at me then looked back down. She had her hands behind her back so I knew she had taken one too. “Raychel, if you took one that is called stealing. Stealing is something you take that is not yours, and if you did not pay for it, that means its still not yours, its the stores. You know, Raychel, the bible tells us that God does not want people to steal. It makes Him sad when people take things from other people or stores.” Raychel then nodes her head saying yes, she then says, ” Here, mom.” and hands it to me. I then, ran back into the store, seen the guy who was helping me and hand it to him saying, ” Sorry, my other little girl took one too.” He says, “Thank you, we appreciate it.”  I headed back to the car, and kinda explained it again to the girls what stealing means. It is actually kinda a good thing that this happened, it gave me the opportunity to explain to them the meaning of stealing and why God doesn’t like it. I am not sure that Oceana gets it yet, but for sure I know Raychel does. My girls learned there first BIG lesson!! I just pray the God will give me the words to say when teaching them wrong from right.

Exodus 20:15
“You shall not steal.”

 
 
On a different note… when i got out of the shower i found oceana wearing her daddy’s reading glasses and holding my devotional book! she looked so stinkin’ cute i had to take a picture of her! Raychel also wanted her picture taken wearing them too. i think they look so cute! what do you think?

{taken with my droid} OC wearing the glasses up side down lol!
 little madi needs to be in this post too!!
ps I had to type this post TWICE {well more like 4, I had it the first time then was deleted then i typed it again then it deleted, then typed it again then got deleted, then this was the last!!!} and each time i was almost done! I guess the devil did not want me sharing this! but its published!!

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