My Mission Field

My family is my mission field.

There is no other occupation that is sacrificial as motherhood.
Being a mom is a wonderful opportunity to live the gospel.
I have to teach my children and guide them in the right path. 
Through my girls is the starting point where I can minister to so many more people.
Being a mom is giving up yourself.

picture taken by my baby girl, Raychel!! {only reason why I’m posting it not my fave}

How can I serve somewhere else if I complain here in my own home with the people I love the most?!
This, right now, me being a mom, cleaning, picking up my girls toys for the 100th time, doing loads and loads of laundry, cooking meals, wiping noses, changing diapers, potty training, story times, disciplining, comforting, nursing, kissing boo boos, teaching and guiding my girls, and loving & helping my husband  is right where I am supposed to be!
God loves the little offerings that are done with love. These little or not so little things, do them as if doing it for the Lord. These little things are BIG things to God!! and I thank Him!! I thank you Lord for this time in my life to serve my family. You have blessed me with a beautiful family!! and I will lay myself down for them! For you have come to serve, and us as moms are setting a small example of that. Thank you, Father God. Keep keeping me focused on what matters most, setting my priorities straight!

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What Women Want

 
A few days ago I posted on The Four Major Needs of a Man so, today I will share my notes on what I learned about what women want! my notes on what women want are less then the one for the man, of course 😉
First

Agian (like in the post of Mans needs), 

there are 3 major problems in marriage

1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God
2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting her
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying her needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.
3. Selfishness
– Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting her needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.
What Women Want
1. Security
~Be concerned, come to her world -what doesn’t bother a man bothers a women
~She needs your strength and understanding
~Be there to help
~Husbands love your wives as God loved the church
~Be a faithful provider
~Study her- want her heart
2. Soft non-sexual affection = the more sexual women become
~Romance- meeting an unspoken need
~You value her
~You care
~Emotional connection = Security
~Hold her hand, wrap your arms around her
3. Open & Honest Communication
~Detail      
~Emotional information  (It is not that she is nosey, its that she cares)
~Communicate is not just words its also feelings & emotions
~Talk with her whether you feel like it or not
~Listen/Care
~Be verbal
~Communication is oxygen to her
~Opening up = healing and re-wiring
women can fix men (their emotions or what is holding them back) if they let them
4. Leadership
(Doesn’t mean dominance)
~Women want their husbands to help…
*discipline their children
*Romance – intimate
*Finances- Budget together
*Spiritual- Pray, go to church
The definition of a HUSBAND  = a grower
husbands you can nurish (protect), feed,  mature your wife – physically, emotionally and spiritually.

well men, there you have it. now, go and put these 4 needs into practice!!

LOVE ~ AMOR

 

{{{{GOD IS LOVE}}}}

1 John 4:8


The Four Major Needs of a Man

 
 This past Saturday Ray and  I went to a marriage couples get together from our church and it was so much fun! We got to spend time with other couples and learn about husband and wife’s needs! I want to share what I learned about the four major needs of a man! These are my notes I took, and since my blog is where I document everything, I surly want to look back on this from time to time 😉 {Note: this is what I believe, and God forbid, if you are in a abusive marriage, these do not apply}

First
there are 3 major problems in marriage
1. You cant change the unchangeable
-Your spouse is the opposite of you and that is normal, you are supposed to be different
-Some needs cannot be met by another person only by God
2. When you reject your spouse needs, you are rejecting him
-Meeting needs closes doors to other temptations
-Accept your spouses needs as being valid.
-Denying his needs being met will result in an unhealthy marriage.
3. Selfishness
 – Marriage is designed to die to self
-Rejecting his needs is selfish
-You are a good wife/husband till he/she says you are.
-Jesus came to serve not to be served.
-Be servants towards each other.

The Four Major needs of a man

1. HONOR
– Praise him
-Focus on his strength not his weaknesses
-Honor is like his oxygen
-How would you treat Jesus?
-Honor your husband to where you want him to be and he will rise to that level! Believe.
– Dis-honor him and he will stay down

note: anyone can honor the perfect man.

2. SEX
-Its a force in a man
-Commit to meeting this need
-Be more sexual then you feel
-Men are visual

3. Fun & Friendship
– Is the basis of a good marriage
-Be his friend before being a mother
-Doing things with him that he enjoys makes him feel like you are still interested in him {you still like him}

4. Home Supporter
-Wife/mommy duties
-Stress free home {clean}
-Making your house a home

Have Fun Together!

The best marriage in the world is two servants in love

FindingBeautyintheOrdinary.com
For any men out there who read my blog… I will be posting what women want/need very soon, so stay tuned 😉

What’s Your Love Story

I am linking up with From Mrs.to Mama today!!

1. How long have you and your significant other been together?Ray and I have been together for 9 lovely years!

2. How did you meet? {What’s your “love” story?}

We met at the Chiropractic office I used to work at. Ray would come in and get adjusted by the doctor, and after a few times of him coming in, he asked me on a date and from then on it was history!

3. If married, how long have you been married?  Ray and I have been married for 5 years!


4. If you are married, where did you get married at? Big or small wedding?  We got married at a golf course in Sunol. We had about 120 people at our wedding.


5. Do you have any nick-names that you call one another? Do share!
Ray calls me Boo. I call him, love bug, my love, babe, honey. 😉 

6. Name 3 things you love most about your honey.

1. His heart! I love his love for people. 2. His determination. 3.Because he is Ray and there is no other like him!


 
7. Tell us how he proposed? Or your ideal proposal?
Ray proposed while we were on a cruise! 

 After a nice dinner on the cruise we headed back to our room and we went out to our balcony, he actually went back in to grab the ring { I, of course did not know, I thought he was grabbing us a drink} while I stayed looking out at the beautiful scenery, Ray comes back out and gets on his knee and asks me to marry him {he says other things before he actually asks me to marry him, but I am just trying to keep it nice and simple}!



8. Is he a flowers and teddy bear kind of guy for v-day, or strawberries, champagne, and rose petals? Ray is a v-day card type of guy! Which I love, because i love when he expresses his feelings towards me. 🙂


9. Are you a sunset dinner on the beach kind of girl, or pop a movie in and relax on the couch? Are you kidding?! Of course… well… for me… I’d rather be on the beach!!


10. Tell us one thing you’d like to do with your significant one day. If you could do anything? Go anywhere?
we would spend a whole month in panama mx, just the two of us! I would also love for us to go back to Africa.

11. Tell us what you plan on doing on this Valentine’s Day.

something simple, maybe dinner and a movie.

12. Are you asking for anything this Valentine’s day?
nope, not asking for anything… just QT with him.

13. Give us one piece of advice of keeping a relationship strong and full of love.
Do it all with LOVE. Forgive. Respect. Focus on making him happy and he will end up doing the same for you. AND go on lots and lots of dates together!!


14. Show us a picture of what love means to you.

 

My Beautiful Princesses

My girls love watching mommy put her makeup on and some days I will let them put makeup on me. Yesterday, I let them put makeup on each other… since they were going to get a bath right after. They had so much fun putting makeup on each other, they were giggling and talking as if they were mommies. Ray came home for lunch and was like “what are they doing?!” I told him they have been good, and that they love playing with my makeup and that it was OK because I was going to give them a bath right after. I don’t let them play with my makeup all that often, just every now and then ðŸ˜‰

~Today, I am so thankful and grateful that my girls are healthy.  I thank God for their health. He has giving me these beautiful princesses to watch over and raise them up for Him. Ray and I are over joyed to have these beautiful healthy girls in our lives. I thank you Lord, for you have blessed me abundantly! I praise you, Father God!

 

 I think the girls watch too much football!

Little Madi is almost 7 months!!!!



Sometimes it gets Worse Before it gets Better

 
  The day before Thanksgiving, Ray bought me a simple pretty necklace, and some how it got tangled up really ugly. As I try to untangle this necklace I start to get very frustrated because its not coming undone, its actually getting worse! I asked Ray, “Hey… babe? Can you please help me untangle this? I am getting very frustrated!” I then hand it over to Ray and he tries to untangle it for a while but no success. So, I go at it again. I really wanted to wear it the next day for Thanksgiving so I wasn’t going to give up.

 Again, I start to get very frustrated with it, so I began to ask God, ” God, please help me get this thing untangled!” I went back at it and that’s when I felt God saying… sometimes things/situations get worse/harder before they get better… but with my help and the peace I bring will help you through. He wasn’t necessarily talking about my necklace, but about life in general. He was teaching me through this necklace {Lord knows I am a visual and hands on learner}. As I continued to untangle this necklace I was no longer frustrated and I took my time untangling it. 3 hours later… no joke… it took me 3 HOURS to untangle this thing! But, It got untangled!! I am sure if I hadn’t felt God speaking to me, I would had totally given up! 3 hours, come on now -ha!

 The same thing goes with life troubles… things may feel like they are getting worse instead of getting better, but have no doubt, that if you trust in God and His timing, things will surly get better! He is walking beside you every step of the way, whether you feel His presence or not He is there guiding you through the process… He will strengthen you and it will get better, way better then better! Your joy will be even GREATER then your suffering/situation! This is for His Glory! Trust in Him, ALWAYS! He does the extraordinary!

Oh!! And the necklace?! I sure did wear it on Thanksgiving!! And I loved it all the more ;)… shoot 3 hours… come on now… I better have loved it all the more lol!

Blessings***

This was right at the end. This necklace was so bad it was tangled up in a ball! I am not even exaggerating, it was that bad!
 Thanksgiving Day!

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
-2 Corinthians 4:17

Let be and be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted in the earth!
-Psalm 46:10 amp

I will never leave you nor forsake you… have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.
-Joshua 1:5,9

Cafe Discussion & What I am Loving

our beautiful little journey
i’m so very excited to be taking part in the (very first!) cafe discussion going on at
what’s the purpose of cafe discussions? I’ll let Noelani explain:
Well, it’s a place for us ladies to gather in together, and share our thoughts and emotions. Every two weeks, there will be a new topic of discussion being brought to the coffee table. A place for us to pour our hearts out, exposing our emotions. A place for us to meet new ladies, who share the same views and beliefs … who we can relate to.
These topics will include things on – parenting, marriage, Military, our Faith, etc. The first topic of discussion? What’s the best part about being a parent?
I hope you can join us, and I’m so looking forward to hearing your responses!  

What I am Loving…

1. Being apart of Cafe Discussion, of course!

2. TOMS! I have no clue why I haven’t gotten these sooner?! They are so very comfortable and the best part… they give a pair to a child in need!!

3. This little scrunched up face!

4. If I don’t have someone to watch the girls while I get my hair done… my sister-in-love comes to mi casa 😉 !!

5. This man & these girls!

6. Gods protection over me and my family. It never fails that almost every week on the way to taking Raychel to school there is a car crash. I am so thankful for Gods protection on me and my family <33

7. I wrote to my kids!! {{post on my kids here}}

My Insecurities & B e a u t i f u l Words

  My husband writes a vision letter on how 2012 will look like by the end of the year. He writes about how his spirituality, business, physical body, social life, finances, family, his 3 daughters, and I (us) will be like by the end of 2012. This is his second year writing a vision letter, and I just had to share what he wrote about me!! It also plays in with my insecurities that I have been… I guess… dealing with? well… first off… here is the B E A U T I F U L letter he wrote about me (us).

Your relationship with your wife has been amazing! Like all marriage’s there has been ups and downs, but you are so blessed to have her in your life! She understands you, respects you, appreciates you, believes in you and stands by you 100% all the time. You have been able to keep growing each year only because of her. Olga is such a great mother with handling our 3 daughters. She is able to take care of them, keep the house clean, have food on the table for us, laundry done (which she slips a little on that, but I have seen an improvement this year) and take care of me. What a super woman! I could not have asked for a better women! I am so glad she is by my side experiencing this journey together! We have been able to implement 1 date night minimum a month and at least 1 quality time together every week! We are still madly in love with each other and those few weekend getaways to Lake Tahoe alone have been great and much needed. I could not be moving forward in life if Olga was not by my side, praise God she is, and I cant wait for our lives to be 20 years in advance when we have built our empire and we are traveling all over the world together and spending all the more quality time together!

This letter is just what I love to hear from my husband!! I love these beautiful words!!! I love to hear that I am still loved by this man who I am so deeply in love with and could not imagine my life without him! While I was reading Ray’s vision letter about me, I was surly on cloud 9, but you know, Satan tries to steer my thoughts in the wrong direction.

As you were reading this letter you seen it has my name on it, right? but, Ray’s original version did not, it just had “she.” The thoughts that come to my head were surly from Satan himself! these were the thoughts… Ray is not talking about you, he wishes it was someone else… that’s why he doesn’t write your name on it. Yeah… stupid, I know! Of course he is talking about me!! I am his wife and we have the most amazing beautiful little girls together… and… we. are. madly. in. love. with. each. other.

Satan tries to fill my head with lies! He wants to take my joy away! Satan also attacks me in my dreams. I have nightmares, often,  about Ray leaving me and that he no longer loves me and he wants to be with someone else. Satan is a BIG fat liar and this is his only way he is able to attack me, through my dreams and thoughts. He knows I am insecure about myself physically and mentally, so this is where he tries to take hold of me to believe his lies! Like I said, and will say it again, Satan is a liar! of course he wants me to believe these things, he wants what God brought together to be separated, he wants marriages to fail, he wants to see people unhappy and turn away from God. BUT, the voice of truth tells me a different story! The voice of truth says do not believe these lies! The voice of truth says, Ray and I are a power couple, and Satan knows it!! He knows that God has set Big plans for Ray and I,  All for the glory of God!!! He knows I am weak in this area and that’s where he attacks. This area of insecurity about myself I will give it to Jesus! God will surly turn it around! So, I choose to believe the truth!! God NEVER lies, God is not a liar, He can not lie!! Our God, Jesus Christ, wants us to live an extraordinary life in him!!! So, ladies, do not believe the lies that come into your head! We are wonderfully made, and God wants us to live EXTRAORDINARY!

~NUMBERS 23: 19 God is not a man, so he does not lie. He is not human, so he does not change his mind. Has he ever spoken and failed to act? Has he ever promised and not carried it through?

~JEREMIAH 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

~PSALM 139: 14 I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.

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